How to Get Rid of Imposter Syndrome & Validate Your Voice
Imposter syndrome means extinction for most modern authors.
And it’s a shame.
Steal my 3 steps to validate your voice
I’ll be honest:
I hate the term “imposter syndrome.”
It’s almost as if you’re afflicted with a disease—shunned by society—destined to live out your days in a dark forest.
It plagues so many authors.
These 3 steps are the cure:
- Step 1: Identify Your “Who”
- Step 2: Create a Pact
- Step 3: Gather Feedback
Let’s regain your self-confidence.
I know it’s in there…
Step 1: Identify Your “Who.”
Engrain this in your mind:
You’re NOT writing for everyone.
When you accept the fact that you can’t please every person on the planet, imposter syndrome fades.
Normalize selective sharing.
You’ll also need some accountability.
There are 2 types:
1. Professional accountability
2. Peer accountability
Professional, you pay for:
– Someone from a publisher
– A writing consultant
A peer can be a friend.
Step 2: Create a Pact.
The reality is, most writers think in word count.
Try thinking in terms of time.
But beware of overestimation.
Research shows that we often overestimate the amount of work we’ll need to do.
This overestimation problem manifests as a disappointment problem.
Here’s an example of a time pact:
“I’ve got two hours blocked off to write this week. Can I send you something to read from that?”
Here’s what you just accomplished:
- You’ve limited your feedback loop.
- You’ve scoped your deliverable.
- You’ve set aside some time.
This loose commitment (pact) will increase your chances of completion.
Give it a shot.
Step 3: Gather Feedback.
Here’s what you don’t want:
Accidentally make your imposter syndrome worse.
Make sure to ask for feedback in the way you’d like to receive it.
You probably don’t want them to bloody up your book with a rampant red pen.
- Tell them not to change the text
- Ask for 1 or 2 things they liked
- And what you can improve
Then you can go ahead and make changes you think make sense.
Bye-bye imposter syndrome!